If you are contemplating divorce or have made the difficult decision to divorce you are asking yourself, what comes next?  What you do today can affect the outcome of your divorce not only financially but emotionally.

 Consider these next 3 steps...

Susan Wakefield| Attorney - Mediator - Legal Coach

THE SECRET OF CHANGE IS TO FOCUS ALL OF YOUR ENERGY NOT ON FIGHTING THE OLD, BUT ON BUILDING THE NEW…”
— SOCRATES

1. Consult with an experienced divorce attorney – speak with an attorney about your marriage, your finances, your children, your assets and the divorce process in Connecticut. During this Consultation you will discuss your legal rights and gather the information you need so you make good decisions right from the start. These early decisions set the tone for what can be an amicable divorce or an adversarial divorce. 

2. Navigate the Connecticut Judicial Branch website - www.jud.ct.gov – this website prepared by the State of Connecticut is user friendly and contains a wealth of information on the divorce process and all the court forms needed to commence a divorce action. The website explains the timelines on getting divorced, the documents you need to prepare, and information on the most common concerns and topics while going through a divorce such as alimony, child support, custody and parenting.

3. Consider all the different ways you can divorce in Connecticut – most people think the way to divorce is each person hires a lawyer and the lawyers work it out. But there are many other options such as divorce mediation and the collaborative process where you can maintain control over the process and costs and participate fully in the negotiations and settlement. The cost of divorce is often why people stay in unhappy relationships and unable to move ahead. But cost should never be the reason not to move forward toward a happier life. There are ways to keep costs down and still have a successful outcome. Take ownership of your divorce so you can look back and know you did the best you could for yourself and your family.

For over 28 years I have practiced exclusively in the area of family and divorce law. Divorce is not a bad thing. It can be a NEW beginning. Divorce is never the end of a family especially when there are children involved. It can build NEW relationships and NEW ways to communicate and co-parent. So much depends on how you approach the divorce process.